Ikigero Cy'Ubukuru

Ubukure butangirira ku myaka mirongo itatu n’itanu, bugasozwa ku myaka mirongo itanu n’itandatu.

Umugabo ukuze agomba kumenya kuyobora urugo rwe no kuyobora abana be.

Mu buzima busanzwe, umugabo wese ukuze ni umukuru w’umuryango. Umugabo utarashinze urugo n’umutungo mu buto bwe no mu bukure bwe ntabwo azongera kubishinga, mu by’ukuri aba yaratsinzwe.

Abagerageza gushinga urugo n’umutungo mu zabukuru ni abo kubabarirwa by’ukuri.

JYE w’umururumba ajya mu ntambwe zikaze, akifuza kwikusanyiriza imitungo myinshi. Muntu akeneye umugati, ubwugamo n’ubuhungiro. Ni ngombwa kugira umugati, inzu yawe bwite, imyenda, amakanzu, ibikote byo kwambara umubiri, ariko ntukeneye kwikusanya amafaranga menshi kugira ngo ubone uko ubaho.

Ntituvugira ubukire cyangwa ubukene, impande zombi ziragayika.

Abantu benshi baribirwa mu butayu bw’ubukene, kandi hari benshi bibirwa mu butayu bw’ubukire.

Ni ngombwa gutunga umutungo uciriritse, ni ukuvuga inzu nziza ifite ubusitani bwiza, isoko y’amafaranga yizewe, guhora wambaye neza kandi ntugire inzara. Ibi ni ibisanzwe kuri muntu wese.

Ubukene, inzara, indwara n’ubujiji ntibigomba kubaho mu gihugu icyo ari cyo cyose kiyita ko ari icy’indobanure kandi cyarateye imbere.

Demokarasi ntabwo irabaho ariko dukeneye kuyirema. Mu gihe hakiri umuturage umwe udafite umugati, ubwugamo n’ubuhungiro, demokarasi ntabwo irenze kuba icyifuzo cyiza.

Abakuru b’imiryango bagomba kuba abanyabwenge, bafite ubwenge, ntibakanywe vino, indashima, abasinzi, abanyagitugu, n’ibindi.

Umugabo wese ukuze azi binyuze mu byo yabonye ko abana bigana urugero rwe, kandi ko niba urwo rugero ari rubi, bizatuma abamukomokaho bayoba.

Ni ubupfapfa by’ukuri ko umugabo ukuze agira abagore benshi kandi akabaho mu businzi, ibirori, ibitendo by’urukozasoni, n’ibindi.

Umugabo ukuze afite inshingano z’umuryango wose, kandi birumvikana ko niba anyura mu nzira zitarizo, azazana akaduruvayo kenshi ku isi, urujijo rwinshi, agahinda kenshi.

Umubyeyi w’umugabo n’umugore bagomba kumva itandukaniro riri hagati y’ibitsina. Ni ubupfapfa ko abakobwa biga fiziki, ubutabire, alijebra, n’ibindi. Ubwonko bw’umugore butandukanye n’ubw’umugabo, amasomo nk’ayo ahuza cyane n’igitsina gabo ariko ntacyo amaze ndetse aranangiza ubwenge bw’umugore.

Ni ngombwa ko ababyeyi b’imiryango baharanira n’umutima wabo wose guteza imbere impinduka z’ingenzi muri gahunda y’amasomo yose y’ishuri.

Umugore agomba kwiga gusoma, kwandika, gucuranga piyano, kuboha, gushushanya, kandi muri rusange amoko yose y’imirimo y’abagore.

Umugore agomba gutegurirwa kuva mu mashuri, umurimo w’agaciro afite nka MAMA n’umugore.

Ni ubupfapfa kwangiza ubwonko bw’abagore n’amasomo agoye kandi akomeye yagenewe igitsina gabo.

Ni ngombwa ko ababyeyi ndetse n’abarimu bo mu mashuri, amakoleji na za kaminuza bahangayikishwa no kuzana umugore mu bugore bumukwiriye. Ni ubupfapfa kwigisha abagore ibya gisirikare, kubahatira gutambuka bafite amabendera n’ingoma mu mihanda y’imijyi nk’aho ari abagabo.

Umugore agomba kuba umugore koko, n’umugabo akaba umugabo koko.

Igitsina hagati, ubutinganyi, ni umusaruro wo kwangirika n’ubugome.

Abakobwa bakora amasomo maremare kandi akomeye barashaje kandi ntawe ubarongora.

Mu buzima bwa none, birakwiye ko abagore bakora amasomo magufi, umuco w’ubwiza, ubunyamabanga, inyandiko ngufi, ubudozi, uburezi, n’ibindi, n’ibindi, n’ibindi.

Ubusanzwe, umugore agomba kwitangira ubuzima bwo mu rugo gusa, ariko bitewe n’ubugome bw’ibi bihe turimo, umugore akeneye gukora kugira ngo abone uko arya no kubaho.

Mu muryango nyakuri wateye imbere kandi w’indobanure, umugore ntakeneye gukora hanze y’inzu kugira ngo abone uko abaho. Ibi byo gukora hanze y’inzu ni ubugome bwo mu bwoko bubi kurusha ubundi.

Umugabo wa none wangiritse yashizeho gahunda y’ibinyoma, atuma umugore atakaza ubunyarwandakazi bwe, amukura mu rugo rwe amuhindura umucakara.

Umugore wahindutse “ikirura”, ufite ubwenge bw’umugabo, unywa itabi kandi asoma ibinyamakuru, yambaye ubusa igice afite amakanzu hejuru y’amavi cyangwa akina agakono, ni ingaruka z’abagabo bangiritse b’iki gihe, ikimwaro cy’imibereho y’umuryango itotezwa.

Umugore wahindutse intasi igezweho, umuganga wiyobyabwenge, umugore uhiganwa mu mikino, umusinzi, utararemwe ushaka kwima abana be amabere kugira ngo atatakaza ubwiza bwe, ni ikimenyetso kibi cy’imibereho y’ibinyoma.

Igihe kirageze cyo gutegura ingabo z’agakiza ku isi yose z’abagabo n’abagore bafite ubushake bwiza bwo kurwanya iyo gahunda y’ibinyoma.

Igihe kirageze cyo gushyiraho ku isi umuco mushya, umuco mushya.

Umugore ni ibuye ry’ibanze ry’urugo kandi niba iryo buye ryaracukuwe nabi, ryuzuye imitwe n’ubugoryi bw’amoko yose, ingaruka z’imibereho y’abantu zizaba ishyano.

Umugabo aratandukanye, atandukanye kandi kubera iyo mpamvu ashobora kwiha kwiga ubuvuzi, fiziki, ubutabire, imibare, amategeko, ubwubatsi, iby’ikirere, n’ibindi, n’ibindi, n’ibindi.

Ikigo cya gisirikare cy’abagabo ntigishobora kuba kidakwiye, ariko ikigo cya gisirikare cy’abagore usibye ko kidakwiye, kirasekeje cyane.

Birasharira kubona abagore bazaba abagore, ababyeyi bazatwara umwana hagati y’amabere yabo bagenda nk’abagabo mu nzira z’umujyi.

Ibi ntibigaragaza gusa gutakaza ubunyarwandakazi mu gitsina, ahubwo binatunga agatoki gutakaza ubunyamujyi mu mugabo.

Umugabo, umugabo w’ukuri, umugabo w’igikundiro ntashobora kwemera ibirego bya gisirikare by’abagore. Amahame y’abagabo, imiterere ya psychologiya y’umugabo, imitekerereze y’umugabo yumva isharira nyakuri kubera ubwo bwoko bw’ibitaramo bigaragaza bihagije kwangirika kw’abantu.

Dukeneye ko umugore asubira mu rugo rwe, mu bunyarwandakazi bwe, mu bwiza bwe bw’umwimerere, mu bwenge bwe bwa kera, no mu koroshya kwe nyakuri. Turakeneye kurangiza iyi gahunda yose no gushyiraho ku isi umuco mushya n’ubugeni bushya.

Ababyeyi b’imiryango n’abarezi bagomba kumenya guhagurutsa ibisekuru bishya n’ubwenge nyakuri n’urukundo.

Abahungu ntibagomba gusa guhabwa amakuru y’ubwenge no kwiga umwuga cyangwa guhabwa impamyabumenyi y’umwuga. Ni ngombwa ko abahungu bamenya icyo inshingano zisobanura kandi bakayoboka inzira yo gukiranuka n’urukundo ruzima.

Ku bitugu by’umugabo ukuze hari inshingano z’umugore, z’abahungu n’abakobwa.

Umugabo ukuze ufite umutimanama wo hejuru, utunganye, wicisha bugufi, ugenga, ufite imico myiza, n’ibindi, yubahwa n’umuryango we ndetse n’abaturage bose.

Umugabo ukuze utera abantu isoni kubera ubuhemu bwe, ubusambanyi, kunanirwa, akarengane k’uburyo bwose, ahinduka igisebo ku bantu bose kandi ntiyitera ububabare gusa ahubwo anababaza abo mu muryango we akanazana ububabare n’urujijo ku isi yose.

Ni ngombwa ko umugabo ukuze amenya uko abaho neza mu gihe cye. Ni ngombwa byihutirwa ko umugabo ukuze yumva ko ubuto bwamaze gushira.

Birasekeje gushaka gusubiramo mu bukure ibihe bibi n’ibibazo byo mu buto.

Igihe cyose cy’ubuzima gifite ubwiza bwacyo, kandi ugomba kumenya uko ubaho.

Umugabo ukuze agomba gukora cyane mbere y’uko ageza mu zabukuru nk’uko isazi ikora mu buryo bwo kubona kure itwara amababi mu kazu kayo mbere y’uko hatera imbeho ikaze, ni ko n’umugabo ukuze agomba gukora vuba kandi akabona kure.

Abasore benshi bakoresha nabi agaciro kabo k’ubuzima bwose, kandi iyo bageze mu bukure basanga basa nabi, bateye ubwoba, ari abakene, batsinzwe.

Birasekeje cyane kubona abagabo bakuze benshi basubiramo ibikorwa by’ubuswa byo mu buto ntibamenye ko ubu bateye ubwoba kandi ko ubuto bwagiye.

Kimwe mu byago bikomeye by’iyi mibereho itotezwa ni ingeso y’inzoga.

Mu buto, benshi biyegurira kunywa kandi iyo bageze mu bukure ntibashinze urugo, ntibashinze umutungo, ntibafite umwuga wunguka, babeshwaho no mu kabari, basaba inzoga, bateye ubwoba cyane, basharira, abakene.

Abakuru b’imiryango n’abarezi bagomba kwita by’umwihariko ku rubyiruko babayobora neza bagamije gushaka isi nziza.