Ubudala Obukhulile

Ubudala obuphakathi buqala lapho umuntu eneminyaka engamashumi amathathu nanhlanu bese bugcina lapho eneminyaka engamashumi amahlanu nesithupha.

Indoda esikhulile kufanele ikwazi ukubusa umuzi wayo nokweluleka izingane zayo.

Empilweni evamile, yonke indoda esikhulile iyinhloko yomndeni. Indoda engazakhelanga ikhaya layo nengcebo yayo ngesikhathi isemncane nasobudala obuphakathi, ngeke isakhe, empeleni iyahluleka.

Labo abazama ukwakha ikhaya nengcebo ngesikhathi sebudala kakhulu bafanelwe isihawu ngempela.

Ubuzwe bokuhaha buyaqisa futhi bufuna ukuziqongelela ingcebo enkulu. Umuntu udinga isinkwa, indawo yokukhosela, nendawo yokuhlala. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ube nesinkwa, indlu yakho, izingubo, amasudi, amajazi okumboza umzimba, kodwa akudingeki ukuziqongelela imali eningi ukuze uphile.

Asivikeli ingcebo noma ubumpofu, womabili la maphethelo ayathukuthelisa.

Baningi abazigaxa odakeni lobumpofu futhi baningi futhi abazigaxa odakeni lwengcebo.

Kuyadingeka ukuba nengcebo elinganiselwe, okungukuthi, indlu enhle enezingadi ezinhle, umthombo oqinisekile wemali engenayo, ukuhlala uhlezi kahle futhi ungalambi. Lokhu kuvamile kumuntu wonke.

Ubumpofu, indlala, ukugula nokungazi akufanele neze kube khona kunoma yiliphi izwe elizithatha njengelihloniphekile neliphucukile.

Intando yeningi ayikakabi khona kodwa sidinga ukuyakha. Ngesikhathi kusenomuntu oyedwa nje ongenasinkwa, indawo yokukhosela nendawo yokuhlala, intando yeningi ayidluli ekubeni umqondo omuhle.

Izinhloko zemindeni kufanele zibe nozwelo, zihlakaniphe, zingalokothi ziphuze iwayini, zibe yiziminzi, izidakwa, izihluku, njll.

Yonke indoda esikhulile iyazi ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwayo ukuthi izingane zilingisa isibonelo sayo nokuthi uma lesi sokugcina silahlekile, sizobeka izindlela ezingenangqondo kubantwana bayo.

Kuyisiwula ngempela ukuthi indoda esikhulile ibe nabesifazane abaningi futhi iphile ngobudakwa, amadili, imikhosi, njll.

Indoda esikhulile inesibopho sawo wonke umndeni futhi kusobala ukuthi uma ihamba ngezindlela ezingalungile, izoletha ukungahleleki okwengeziwe emhlabeni, ukudideka okwengeziwe, ubuhlungu obukhulu.

Ubaba nomama kufanele baqonde umehluko phakathi kobulili. Akunangqondo ukuthi amadodakazi afunde i-physics, chemistry, algebra, njll. Ubuchopho bomama buhlukile kobendoda, izifundo ezinjalo zivumelana kakhulu nobulili bobudoda kodwa azisizi ngalutho futhi ziyingozi engqondweni yowesifazane.

Kuyadingeka ukuthi obaba nomama bomndeni balwe ngenhliziyo yonke ukuze bakhuthaze ushintsho olubalulekile kulo lonke uhlelo lwezifundo zesikole.

Uwesifazane kufanele afunde ukufunda, ukubhala, ukudlala upiyano, ukuluka, ukuthunga nokweluka, futhi ngokuvamile zonke izinhlobo zemisebenzi yobuwesifazane.

Owesifazane kufanele alungiselelwe kusukela emabhentshini esikole kuqala, emsebenzini ophakeme afaneleka njengoMAMA nomfazi.

Akunangqondo ukulimaza ubuchopho besifazane ngezifundo eziyinkimbinkimbi nezinzima ezifanele ubulili bobudoda.

Kuyadingeka ukuthi bobabili obaba bomndeni nothisha bezikole, amakolishi namanyuvesi bakhathazeke kakhulu ngokuletha owesifazane ebuwesifazaneni obumfanele. Kuyisiwula ukusonta abesifazane, ukubaphoqa ukuba bahambe ngamafulegi nezigubhu emigwaqweni yamadolobha njengokungathi bangamadoda.

Uwesifazane kufanele abe ngowesifazane impela futhi indoda kufanele ibe yindoda impela.

Ubulili obuphakathi, ubungqingili, bungumkhiqizo wokuziphatha okubi nobugovu.

Izintombi ezizinikezela ezifundweni ezinde nezilukhuni ziyaguga futhi akekho ozishadayo.

Empilweni yanamuhla, kuyancomeka ukuthi abesifazane benze imisebenzi emifushane, isiko lobuhle, ukuthayipha, ukubhala ngesandla esifushane, ukuthunga, imfundiso, njll., njll., njll.

Ngokuvamile owesifazane kufanele azinikele kuphela empilweni yasekhaya, kodwa ngenxa yobubi bale nkathi esiphila kuyo, owesifazane udinga ukusebenza ukuze adle futhi aphile.

Emphakathini ophucukile ngempela nophucukile, owesifazane akadingi ukusebenza ngaphandle kwendlu ukuze aphile. Lokhu kokusebenza ngaphandle kwendlu kuyisenzo esinonya kakhulu.

Indoda yanamuhla eyehliswe isithunzi idale uhlelo lwamanga lwezinto, futhi yenze owesifazane walahlekelwa ubuwesifazane bakhe, yamkhipha endlini yakhe yamenza isigqila.

Owesifazane ophenduke “intombazane” enengqondo yendoda, obhema ugwayi futhi efunda iphephandaba, ogqoke izingubo zangaphansi ngamadolo noma odlala i-canasta, ungumphumela wamadoda anyundelwe ale nkathi, isihlava somphakathi wempucuko esifayo.

Owesifazane ophenduke inhloli yanamuhla, udokotela omlutha wezidakamizwa, owesifazane oyimpetha kwezemidlalo, isidakwa, olahlekelwa yimvelo yakhe yenqaba ukuncelisa izingane zakhe ukuze angalahlekelwa ubuhle bakhe uyisibonakaliso esibi kakhulu sempucuko engamanga.

Sekuyisikhathi sokuhlela ibutho lokusindisa umhlaba wonke elinabesilisa nabesifazane abanenhliziyo enhle abazimisele ngempela ukulwa nalolu hlelo lwamanga lwezinto.

Sekuyisikhathi sokusungula impucuko entsha emhlabeni, isiko elisha.

Uwesifazane uyitshe legumbi lekhaya futhi uma leli tshe lingalungiswanga kahle, ligcwele imiphetho ebukhali nokukhubazeka kwazo zonke izinhlobo, umphumela wempilo yomphakathi uyoba yinhlekelele.

Indoda ihlukile, yehlukile futhi ngakho ingazitika ngokufunda ezokwelapha, i-physics, chemistry, izibalo, umthetho, ubunjiniyela, i-astronomy, njll., njll., njll.

Ikolishi lezempi lamadoda alingenangqondo, kodwa ikolishi lezempi labesifazane ngaphezu kokuba lingenangqondo, libonakala liyinto ehlekisayo.

Kuyenyanyeka ukubona abazoba ngomakoti, omama abazobe bephethe umntwana phakathi kwebele labo behamba njengamadoda emigwaqweni yedolobha.

Lokhu akugcini nje ngokubonisa ukulahlekelwa ubuwesifazane bobulili kodwa futhi kubeka umunwe enxebeni elikhomba ukulahlekelwa ubudoda endodeni.

Indoda, indoda yangempela, indoda eyindoda impela ayikwazi ukwamukela lamas ikhombisa ngobusosha yabesifazane. Ukucabangela kobudoda, i-idiosyncrasy yengqondo yendoda, ukucabanga kwendoda kuzizwa kunengeka ngalolu hlobo lwemibukiso ebonisa ngokugcwele ukuziphatha okubi komuntu.

Sidinga owesifazane ukuthi abuyele ekhaya lakhe, ebuwesifazaneni bakhe, ebuhleni bakhe bemvelo, ebumsulweni bakhe bokuqala, nasebululwini bakhe beqiniso. Sidinga ukuqeda lonke lolu hlelo lwezinto futhi sisungule phezu kobuso bomhlaba impucuko entsha nomsebenzi omusha wokudweba izithombe.

Obaba bomndeni nabafundisi kufanele bakwazi ukukhulisa izizukulwane ezintsha ngokuhlakanipha kweqiniso nothando.

Amadodana akufanele athole ulwazi lobuhlakani kuphela futhi afunde umsebenzi wezandla noma athole isiqu sobungcweti. Kuyadingeka ukuthi abafana bazi umqondo womthwalo wemfanelo futhi bahambe endleleni yobuqotho nothando oluqondayo.

Emahlombe endoda esikhulile kunesibopho somfazi, izingane zamadodana namadodakazi.

Indoda esikhulile enomuzwa ophezulu womthwalo wemfanelo, emsulwa, enokulinganisela, elinganiselwe, enobuhle, njll., iyahlonishwa umndeni wayo nabo bonke abantu.

Indoda esikhulile ethukuthelisa abantu ngeziphingo zayo, ubufebe, ukunganeliseki, ukungalungi kwazo zonke izinhlobo, iba yenyanyekayo kubo bonke abantu futhi ayizilimazi yona kuphela kodwa futhi igulukudela amalungu ayo omndeni futhi iletha ubuhlungu nokudideka kuwo wonke umhlaba.

Kuyadingeka ukuthi indoda esikhulile ikwazi ukuphila inkathi yayo ngendlela efanele. Kuphuthuma ukuthi indoda esikhulile iqonde ukuthi ubusha budlulile.

Kuyahlekisa ukufuna ukuphinda ebudaleni imidlalo efanayo nezigcawu zobusha.

Inkathi ngayinye yokuphila inobuhle bayo, futhi kufanele wazi ukuthi ungayiphila kanjani.

Indoda esikhulile kufanele isebenze kanzima ngaphambi kokuba kufike ukuguga njengoba nje intuthwane isebenza ngendlela elindelekile ethwele amaqabunga ewayisa esidlekeni sayo ngaphambi kokuba kufike ubusika obubandayo, ngakho-ke indoda esikhulile kufanele isebenze ngokushesha nangokuqapha.

Amadoda amaningi asemasha achitha ngobuwula zonke izimfanelo zawo ezibalulekile, futhi lapho efinyelela ebudaleni obuphakathi azithola zimbi, zinyantisa, ziyadabukisa, zihluleka.

Kuyahlekisa ngempela ukubona amadoda amaningi amadala ephinda izenzo zokungenzi lutho zobusha ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuthi manje amabi nokuthi ubusha sebudlulile.

Enye yezinhlekelele ezinkulu kakhulu zale mpucuko esifayo yisono sotshwala.

Ebusheni abaningi bazinikela ekuphuzeni futhi lapho kufika ubudala obuphakathi abakazakhelanga ikhaya, abakazakhelanga ingcebo, abanawo umsebenzi onenzuzo, baphila beya emahlathini becela utshwala, benyantisa, benyanyeka, bedabukisa.

Izinhloko zemindeni nabafundisi kufanele banake ngokukhethekile abasha, babaqondise ngendlela efanele ngenhloso enempilo yokwenza umhlaba ube ngcono.