Ubusha

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Izisekelo zobusha zitholakala ekhaya, esikoleni nasemgwaqweni. Ubusha obukhuliswe phezu kwesisekelo SEMFUNDO EYISISEKELO empeleni BUYAKHA futhi bubaluleke kakhulu EKUTHUTHUKISENI ISITHUNZI.

Ubusha obakhiwe phezu kwezisekelo zamanga ngumphumela onengqondo wendlela engafanele.

Iningi lamadoda lisebenzisa ingxenye yokuqala yempilo ekwenzeni yonke enye isezinhlungwini.

Intsha ngokomqondo ongaqondile wobudoda bamanga, ivame ukuwela ezingalweni zezifebe.

Izenzo ezeqile zobusha ziyizincwadi ezikweletwa ngokumelene nobudala ezikhokhwa ngenzalo ephezulu eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu kusukela ngosuku.

Ngaphandle KWEMFUNDO EYISISEKELO, ubusha buba ukudakwa okuqhubekayo: umkhuhlane wephutha, utshwala kanye nothando lwezilwane.

Konke okumele umuntu abe yikho empilweni yakhe kutholakala esimweni esingaba khona phakathi neminyaka engamashumi amathathu yokuqala yokuphila.

Kuzo zonke izenzo ezinkulu zomuntu esinazo ulwazi ngazo, kokubili ezikhathini ezedlule nakwezethu, iningi lazo liqalwe ngaphambi kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu.

Indoda esifinyelele eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu ngezinye izikhathi izizwa sengathi iphuma empini enkulu lapho ibone khona inqwaba yozakwabo bewa ngemva komunye nomunye.

Lapho befika eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu ubudala, amadoda nabesifazane sebeyilahle yonke intshiseko nentshiseko yabo futhi uma behluleka emizamweni yabo yokuqala, bagcwala ithemba futhi bayayeka umdlalo.

Imibono yamanga yokuvuthwa ilandela imibono yamanga yobusha. Ngaphandle Kwemfundo Eyisisekelo, ifa lobudala ngokuvamile liwukudangala.

Ubutsha buyadlula. Ubuhle buyinkazimulo yobusha, kodwa buyinkohliso, abuhlali.

Ubutsha bunobuGcisa obukhona futhi nokwahlulela buthakathaka. Abavamile empilweni intsha enokwahlulela okuqinile nobuGcisa obukhona.

Ngaphandle KWEMFUNDO EYISISEKELO, intsha iba nenkanuko, idakiwe, iyiziqhwaga, iyazondeka, iyazikhathaza ngezinkanuko zobulili, inkanuko, iminono, iyahahela, inomona, inomona, iyizigebengu, amasela, iyaziqhenya, iyavilapha, njll.

Ubusha yilanga lehlobo elisheshayo ukucwila. Intsha ithanda ukumosha izimfanelo ezibalulekile zobusha.

Abantu abadala benza iphutha lokuxhaphaza intsha futhi bayiyise empini.

Abantu abasha bangaziguqula futhi baguqule Umhlaba uma beqondiswa yindlela YEMFUNDO EYISISEKELO.

Ebuntwaneni sigcwele imibono yamanga esiyisa ekudumazekeni kuphela.

Umuntu uyalisebenzisa izinga lobusha ukuze aziqinise futhi abe namandla.

Umuntu ufuna ukwaneliseka, izinkanuko nganoma iyiphi intengo noma ngabe ukuguga kulimaza ngokuphelele.

Abantu abasha banesithakazelo kuphela sokuzinikela ezingalweni zokuphinga, iwayini kanye nenjabulo yazo zonke izinhlobo.

Intsha ayifuni ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuba yizigqila zenjabulo kungokwamafeba kodwa hhayi amadoda eqiniso.

Ayikho injabulo ehlala isikhathi eside ngokwanele. Ukoma kwezinjabulo yisifo esenza IZILWANE EZINGQONDO zideleleke kakhulu. Imbongi enkulu ekhuluma iSpanishi uJorge Manrique, yathi:

“Kushesha kangakanani ukuhamba kwenjabulo, ngemuva kokukhunjulwa, kunika ubuhlungu, ukuthi ngokombono wethu noma yisiphi isikhathi esidlule besingcono”

U-Aristotle ekhuluma ngenjabulo wathi: “Uma kuziwa ekwahluleleni injabulo, thina bantu asibona abahluleli abangakhethi.”

ISILWANE ESIHLAKANIPHILE siyakujabulela ukuthethelela injabulo. UFrederick Omkhulu akazange abe nenkinga ngokuqinisekile ukuthi: “INJABULO IYINTO ENGAQINISEKILE KULE MPILO”.

Ubuhlungu obungabekezeleleki kakhulu yilobo obubangelwa ukwelulwa kwenjabulo enamandla kakhulu.

Intsha ehawukelayo iyanda njengokhula. Mina oshadeleyo ngaso sonke isikhathi ngithethelela injabulo.

Ushadeleyo ONGAPHELI uyakuzonda Umshado noma ukhetha ukuwuhlehlisa. Kuyindaba enzima ukuhlehlisa Umshado ngesizathu sokujabulela zonke izinjabulo zomhlaba.

Kuyize ukuqeda amandla obusha bese ushada, izisulu zobuwula obunjalo izingane.

Amadoda amaningi ashada ngoba ekhathele, abesifazane abaningi bashada ngenxa yelukuluku futhi umphumela wobuwula obunjalo uhlala udumazeka.

Yonke indoda ehlakaniphile imthanda ngempela nangayo yonke inhliziyo owesifazane emkhethile.

Kumele sihlale sishada ebusheni uma ngempela singafuni ukuba nokuguga okuyihlazo.

Kukhona isikhathi sakho konke empilweni. Ukuthi insizwa ishade kuyinto ejwayelekile, kodwa ukuthi isalukazi sishade kuyinto ewubuwula.

Intsha kufanele ishade futhi yazi ukuthi ingakha kanjani umuzi wayo. Akufanele sikhohlwe ukuthi isilo somona siyonakalisa imizi.

USalomoni wathi: “Umhawu unonya njengengcwaba; amalahle awo amalahle omlilo.”

Uhlanga LWEZILWANE EZINGQONDO lunomona njengezinja. Umhawu UNEZILWANE ngokuphelele.

Indoda enomona ngowesifazane ayazi ukuthi ubani amlindile. Kungcono ukungabi nomona ngaye ukuze wazi ukuthi ungowesifazane onjani.

Ukukhala okunobuthi kowesifazane onomona kubulala ngaphezu kwamazinyo enja enomsoco.

Kungamanga ukuthi lapho kunomona khona kukhona uthando. Umhawu awuze uvela othandweni, uthando nomona awuhambisani. Umsuka womona utholakala ekwesabeni.

Mina ngithethelela umona ngezizathu zezinhlobo eziningi. Mina ngiyesaba ukulahlekelwa othandekayo.

Noma ngubani ofuna ngempela ukuqeda mina kufanele ahlale ekulungele ukulahlekelwa okuthandwa kakhulu.

Ekusebenzeni sikwazile ukufakazela ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi yokubuka, ukuthi wonke umuntu ongashadile okhululekile uba yindoda enomona.

Wonke umuntu ubelokhu eyisifebe ngokwesabekayo

Indoda nowesifazane kufanele bahlangane ngokuzithandela nangothando, hhayi ngokwesaba nomona.

Phambi KOMTHETHO OMKHULU indoda kufanele iphendule ngokuziphatha kwayo futhi owesifazane ngowakhe. Indoda ayikwazi ukuphendula ngokuziphatha kowesifazane futhi owesifazane akakwazi ukuphendula ngokuziphatha kwendoda yakhe. Yilowo nalowo aphendule ngokuziphatha kwakhe futhi umona uyanyamalala.

Inkinga eyinhloko yobusha nguMshado.

Intombazane encokola nabantu abaningana izohlala ingashadile “ngoba bobabili banomunye nomunye bayadumazeka ngayo.

Kuyadingeka ukuthi intsha yazi ukuthi ingayigcina kanjani intombi yayo uma ngempela ifuna ukushada.

Kuyadingeka ukuthi ungaphambanisi UTHANDO NOTHANDO. Izithandani ezisencane namantombazane, azikwazi ukuhlukanisa phakathi kothando nothando.

Kuphuthuma ukwazi ukuthi INKANUKO iyobuthi obukhohlisa ingqondo nenhliziyo.

Yonke indoda enothando kanye naye wonke owesifazane onothando bangaze bafunge ngezinyembezi zegazi ukuthi bathandana ngempela.

Ngemuva kokwanelisa uthando lwezilwane, inqaba yamakhadi iyawa.

Ukwehluleka kwemishado eminingi kangaka kungenxa yokuthi bashade ngenxa yothando lwezilwane, kodwa hhayi NGENXA YOTHANDO.

Isinyathelo esibi kakhulu esisithathayo ngesikhathi sobusha nguMshado futhi Ezikoleni, Amakolishi Namanyuvesi kufanele kulungiswe intsha namantombazane alesi sinyathelo esibalulekile.

Kuyadabukisa ukuthi intsha namantombazane amaningi ashada ngenxa yezithakazelo zezomnotho noma nje okulula emphakathini.

Lapho Umshado wenziwa ngothando lwezilwane noma ngento elula emphakathini noma isithakazelo sezomnotho, umphumela awuphumeleli.

Yimibhangqwana eminingi ehluleka emshadweni ngenxa yokungahambisani kwezinhlamvu.

Owesifazane ogane insizwa enomona, ethukuthele, enolaka, uzoba yisisulu sombulali.

Insizwa egane owesifazane onomona, olaka, othukuthele, kusobala ukuthi kuzodingeka ichithe impilo yayo esihogweni.

Ukuze kube khona uthando lweqiniso phakathi kwabantu ababili, kuphuthuma ukuthi kungabikho uthando lwezilwane, kubalulekile ukuqeda mina womona, kuyadingeka ukuhlakaza intukuthelo, isisekelo sokungabi nazithakazelo ekuhlolweni ngakunye.

UMINA ulimaza amakhaya, UMNGAWAMI ucekela phansi ukuzwana. Uma intsha namantombazane efunda IMFUNDO yethu EYISISEKELO futhi zizimisele ukuqeda mina, kusobala ukuthi zizothola indlela YOMSHADO OGCWELE.

Kungokuqeda kuphela i-EGO lapho kungaba khona injabulo yangempela emakhaya. Kulabo abasha namantombazane abafuna ukujabula emshadweni sincoma ukuthi bafunde ngokujulile IMFUNDO yethu EYISISEKELO futhi baqede UMINA.

Abazali abaningi bomndeni banomona ngamadodakazi abo ngendlela ethusayo futhi abafuni ukuthi abe nezintombi. Isenzo esinjalo siwubuwula ngamaphesenti ayikhulu ngoba amantombazane adinga ukuba nezintombi futhi ashadile.

Umphumela wokuntuleka okunjalo kokuqonda izintombi ngasese, emgwaqweni, ngengozi njalo yokuthunjwa yisoka eliyengayo.

Intsha kufanele ihlale inenkululeko yokuba nentombi yayo, kodwa ngoba bengakaqedi mina, kuyancomeka ukuthi ungabashiyi bebodwa nentombi.

Intsha namantombazane kufanele babe nenkululeko yokuzenzela amaphathi asekhaya. Ukuphazamiseka okunempilo akulimazi muntu futhi Ubusha budinga ukuba nezithikamezo.

Olimaza intsha utshwala, ugwayi, ukuphinga, imigidi, ukuxega, izindawo zokuphuzela, amakhabarethi, njll.

Amaphathi emindeni, imidanso ehloniphekile, umculo omuhle, ukuhamba emaphandleni, njll, akukwazi ukulimaza muntu.

Ingqondo ilimaza uthando. Intsha eminingi ilahlekelwe ithuba lokushada nabesifazane abahle kakhulu ngenxa yokwesaba kwayo kwezomnotho, izinkumbulo zakusasa ngokukhathazeka ngekusasa.

Ukwesaba impilo, indlala, ubumpofu kanye namaphrojekthi ayize engqondo kuba yimbangela eyinhloko yokuhlehliswa komshado ngamunye.

Miningi intsha ezimisele ukungashadi kuze kube yilapho inemali ethile, indlu yayo, imoto yemodeli yakamuva nezinye iziwula eziyinkulungwane sengathi konke lokho kungaba yinjabulo.

Kuyadabukisa ukuthi lolu hlobo lwamadoda luphuthelwa amathuba amahle emshadweni ngenxa yokwesaba impilo, ukufa, ukuthi bazothini, njll.

Lolu hlobo lwamadoda luhlala lungashadile impilo yalo yonke noma lishade sekwephuze kakhulu, lapho esengasenaso isikhathi sokwakha umndeni nokufundisa izingane zalo.

Empeleni konke insizwa ekudingayo ukuze isekele umkayo nezingane zayo ukuba nomsebenzi noma umsebenzi othobekile, yilokho kuphela.

Intsha eminingi ihlala ingashadile ngenxa yokukhetha umyeni. Abesifazane ababala, abanentshisekelo, abanobugovu bahlala bengashadile noma behluleka ngokuphelele emshadweni.

Kuyadingeka ukuthi amantombazane aqonde ukuthi yonke indoda iyadumazeka ngowesifazane onentshisekelo, obalayo futhi onobugovu.

Abanye besifazane abasha abafisa ukubamba umyeni bazipenda ubuso ngokweqile, banciphise amashiya abo, bagobe izinwele zabo, bafake amawigi kanye nezindandatho ezingamanga, laba besifazane abakuqondi ukusebenza kwengqondo kwabesilisa.

Indoda ngokwemvelo iyazinenga izinhlamvu zikamatilisha ezipendiwe futhi iyamangala ngobuhle bemvelo ngokuphelele nokumamatheka okumsulwa.

Indoda ifuna ukubona kowesifazane ubuqotho, ubulula, uthando lweqiniso olungenazithakazelo, ubumsulwa bemvelo.

Amantombazane afuna ukushada adinga ukuqonda ngokujulile ukusebenza kwengqondo kobulili bobudoda.

UTHANDO LUYISIZINDI sobuqotho. Uthando luyondliwa ngothando. Umlilo wobusha obungapheli wuthando.